Wedding guest dilemmas and how to solve them

Wedding guest dilemmas and how to solve them

Are you worried about how everyone you know will fit into your wedding? You are not alone. For many couples, the wedding guest list can churn up all sorts of dilemmas, awkward conversations and family tensions.

Wedding guest lists

When it comes to your wedding guest list, balancing relationships, budget, and venue capacity can be tricky. Communication is key, and talking with your partner to work out everyone’s roles is crucial. We’ve got a few suggestions to help make the process easier.

Couples face many challenges when they begin wedding planning, and a significant cause of anxiety can be deciding who’s coming and who isn’t. This is just the scenario where poor communication can cause stress and further problems. 

When creating your guest list, try not to get too overwhelmed. The amount of planning required may make it seem easier to elope. However, staying focused on what the day means to you is essential. 

Common wedding guest list dilemmas and how to solve them

Who’s paying?

Your guest list problems may be dictated by who pays for the wedding. If your parents or future in-laws are footing the bill, it is only reasonable that they may want to invite people too. However, if you and your fiancée are funding the big day, you can share the guest list equally. It is important to include your parents still to keep everyone happy. Why not compromise and allocate a few spaces on your guest list for their suggestions?

Plus ones 

You will not be able to please everyone, and deciding who to leave off the list is tricky. With your extended families invited, the spaces for friends and plus ones may be limited. You need to make sure your guest list represents the most influential people in both of your lives. This may mean setting some boundaries together and negotiating. There’s no set wedding etiquette, so why not consider each plus one individually?

Evening guests

Don’t feel obliged to say yes to everyone as this is not practical. If you want more people to be included in your special day, you could invite some friends as evening guests. It is advisable to send out separate invitations to them with details of the celebrations.

Family tensions

Weddings bring together guests from all aspects of your lives. The gathering of family members can result in tension. To help things run smoothly when sending out invitations, you could acknowledge they may be uncomfortable, but you would appreciate their presence. On the other hand, you could inform family members who have been invited beforehand, so no one is surprised when they arrive.

Seating plans

Alongside a guest list, you will have a seating plan to consider. A little thoughtfulness about positions at the reception will prevent you and your guests from unnecessary tension and ensure everyone enjoys a more relaxing meal. If this is getting too complicated, why not consider a buffet at the reception, so guests feel able to move between groups.

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